Today's Loyola Press retreat reminds me of a post I wrote on my To Give God blog back in May of this year. I'll post it here again as it fits beautifully:
If you love one another God will dwell in you. And if you take yourself, your blessed self, filled with the love of God, break yourself open and give yourself to others, you are fulfilling God's plan.
Jesus repeatedly emphasized this point. He took, blest, broke and gave to His disciples at His Last Supper with them, and among the five thousand, as well as when Jesus ate with friends after His Resurrection. The theme is clear.
Jesus came for us. He took, blest, broke and gave the bread. God took, blest, broke and gave His Son. We take, bless, break and give ourselves every day as moms.
In quite literal terms, one can easily understand the effort a mother puts forth in preparing a family meal: she plans, drags out cookbooks, walks the grocery aisles, dropping food into the cart, onto the counter, out to the car, into the house, to the cupboards and fridge. Washes, chops, bakes and boils on and on until finally her meal is ready to be scarfed down in 10 minutes by her hungry brood. 10 minutes!
Hardly seems fair, does it? Took, blest, broke and gave. Nothing at all mentioned about fair. And it isn't fair. Life is not fair. We are to break open ourselves. The example is clear. Break. Not gently, carefully, tenderly peeling back layers of self. Break. What was once whole is suddenly in pieces.
Merriam-Webster's first definition of the verb "break": to separate into parts with suddenness or violence. Other definitions: fracture, rupture, violate, destroy. Get the picture, moms?
We live in a constant state of destruction - if we are doing this thing called raising Christian children the right way. We have all seen the hands-off parents. They don't get messy. They don't expend too much energy raising their children. More often than not, the energy is eagerly expended not upon the children, but on the parents themselves. Sadly, I imagine we can all quickly bring to mind one such parent.
But would you want to be that kind of parent? I never would want to be. Never was. Never will be. We need to break, to get dirty with our kids in the backyard - not buy them the NintendoDS Gardening Mama or the current cooking game. C'mon - garden, cook, get messy - for real. Be an in-the-trenches mom, not the sideline mom. Break yourself open for all the world to see.
~ Maureen :)
Shared Meals 11/23/09
Monday, November 23, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
Just Forgive ~ It's Easier
I think moms are the best forgivers on the planet. Mine was to me; I am to my children. Much of forgiving just has to do with realizing that by the time it gets around to forgiving our kids, they've already learned their lesson, whatever happened is over, and it's time to move on. Holding grudges is stupid, childish and unproductive.
What if God held everything we've ever done against us? Every bad decision, every thoughtless act. Nothing was wiped clean. How awful! Let's remember this the next time we elongate a bad situation, especially with our children, by gripping it tightly, feeling the hurt, unable to let go. Do unto others...remember?
~ Maureen :)
I Forgive You 11/16/09
What if God held everything we've ever done against us? Every bad decision, every thoughtless act. Nothing was wiped clean. How awful! Let's remember this the next time we elongate a bad situation, especially with our children, by gripping it tightly, feeling the hurt, unable to let go. Do unto others...remember?
~ Maureen :)
I Forgive You 11/16/09
Friday, November 13, 2009
One of Love's Challenges
Today's Loyola Press retreat asks the question, What is "challenging about living life with a loving attitude?" I think the clincher in this question is the word, "life." Life doesn't always run smoothly; it's not sunshine and yellow roses. It's hard. It's confusing. One day we are sure of something and the next we haven't a clue.
Life. I've often thought of life as a four letter word. But that's all we've got. So we have to make the most of it. For me, the most challenging part of living life with a loving attitude is when I am living that life in an atmosphere not conducive to love - not conducive to all those lovely words that St. Paul used - when I must be the one to bring the love. I'd much rather jump headlong into a basket of all-encompassing love, like I used to jump into autumn's fallen leaves. Just jump right into a place where the love already is present and overflowing. And in real life it's hard to locate those places.
So, as moms, we try to create those places, those pockets of love, in our homes for our families. Somedays are tougher than others. On those days we must remember that this too shall pass, that God is with us.
~ Maureen :)
Loving Others 11/13/09
Life. I've often thought of life as a four letter word. But that's all we've got. So we have to make the most of it. For me, the most challenging part of living life with a loving attitude is when I am living that life in an atmosphere not conducive to love - not conducive to all those lovely words that St. Paul used - when I must be the one to bring the love. I'd much rather jump headlong into a basket of all-encompassing love, like I used to jump into autumn's fallen leaves. Just jump right into a place where the love already is present and overflowing. And in real life it's hard to locate those places.
So, as moms, we try to create those places, those pockets of love, in our homes for our families. Somedays are tougher than others. On those days we must remember that this too shall pass, that God is with us.
~ Maureen :)
Loving Others 11/13/09
Monday, November 9, 2009
Who Do You Say that I Am?
Jesus asks His disciples, "Who do you say that I am?"
Since I am a definite work in progress, it has taken me most of my life to feel like I know who Jesus is. And most of my life to know who I am. Funny how the two go hand-in-hand, isn't it?
As moms of young ones we wear so many hats we have to look into the mirror to decide exactly who we are at any particular moment. We are so many things - and all extremely important. As we grow older we change and learn, just as our children change and learn. We feel confused and upset and proud and worthwhile. We certainly run the gamut of emotions, don't we? Sometimes I don't know how moms survive!
I think as long as we keep asking questions like, "Who do you say that I am," we'll all be OK.
~Maureen :)
Answering the Question 11/9/09
Since I am a definite work in progress, it has taken me most of my life to feel like I know who Jesus is. And most of my life to know who I am. Funny how the two go hand-in-hand, isn't it?
As moms of young ones we wear so many hats we have to look into the mirror to decide exactly who we are at any particular moment. We are so many things - and all extremely important. As we grow older we change and learn, just as our children change and learn. We feel confused and upset and proud and worthwhile. We certainly run the gamut of emotions, don't we? Sometimes I don't know how moms survive!
I think as long as we keep asking questions like, "Who do you say that I am," we'll all be OK.
~Maureen :)
Answering the Question 11/9/09
Sunday, November 8, 2009
The Balance Beam Mom
A balanced mom could be thought of as a freak of nature! I was never a balanced mom as my children were growing up. Full throttle - that was how I did it. I wished I had not, but that's how I did it. Looking back I see the error in my ways. Did I start every day saying the Our Father, spending quality time with God before accomplishing the million things I had to do? Heck no!
But that's how I begin each day now, and it centers me. Life is hard in so many ways, but beginning each new day of life in the presence of your best Friend is a great way to ease the hardship and multiply the joy.
Try it tomorrow if you don't already do it. Our Father... - You know the words.
~ Maureen :)
Balance in Life 11/08/09
But that's how I begin each day now, and it centers me. Life is hard in so many ways, but beginning each new day of life in the presence of your best Friend is a great way to ease the hardship and multiply the joy.
Try it tomorrow if you don't already do it. Our Father... - You know the words.
~ Maureen :)
Balance in Life 11/08/09
Friday, November 6, 2009
Thank You, God
As moms, what's the first thing we teach our children to do when they receive a gift? To say thank you. Tiny tots are proclaimed as well-mannered if they show appreciation, and possibly deemed little ingrates if they do not. We are concerned that our children exhibit gratitude appropriately to the right person. And there's nothing wrong with that. A little more gratitude in this world would go a long way.
But let's not ever forget where the gratitude should land ultimately: at God's feet. Healthy kids, a warm home, food on the table. How quickly we may forget to thank God for the most exquisite gifts. Tonight, instead of asking for more, let's be grateful for what we have right now.
~ Maureen :)
Serving Others 11/6/09
But let's not ever forget where the gratitude should land ultimately: at God's feet. Healthy kids, a warm home, food on the table. How quickly we may forget to thank God for the most exquisite gifts. Tonight, instead of asking for more, let's be grateful for what we have right now.
~ Maureen :)
Serving Others 11/6/09
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Expect to Hear God's Voice
Wow! Not sure I ever specifically remember reading this verse before from Deuteronomy:
"It is the Lord who marches before you; he will be with you and never fail you or forsake you. So do not fear or be dismayed."
Again, I say Wow!
Moms need black and white sometimes. Short and sweet. Simple. I guess this is one of those times for me. We moms always seem to be so darn busy that we really don't want to take the time to decipher our lives. We go from this to that and the next thing, and before we realize it 20 years have zoomed by. That's so awful - but so true.
Well, these words of God, this promise from God, is also true. It is simply a lovely and powerful Bible verse. Think on it. Pray on it. But more than anything just believe it. Accept it. Copy it down and put it in your purse, on your mirror, in your car - anywhere where you can see it often.
God is calling us every day to hope and trust in Him. Every day! Not just when He gets around to it. Let's be open to Him in our lives. As you know I am recovering from the flu. I have had much time to reflect, to "hear" what God is trying to tell me. And I have heard. I've heard God's message to me in paperback novels, in songs on the radio, and movies on TV. God doesn't speak exclusively through the Bible. The more I listen the louder God talks.
Expect God's voice. He won't let you down.
~ Maureen :)
God is Near 11/05/09
"It is the Lord who marches before you; he will be with you and never fail you or forsake you. So do not fear or be dismayed."
Again, I say Wow!
Moms need black and white sometimes. Short and sweet. Simple. I guess this is one of those times for me. We moms always seem to be so darn busy that we really don't want to take the time to decipher our lives. We go from this to that and the next thing, and before we realize it 20 years have zoomed by. That's so awful - but so true.
Well, these words of God, this promise from God, is also true. It is simply a lovely and powerful Bible verse. Think on it. Pray on it. But more than anything just believe it. Accept it. Copy it down and put it in your purse, on your mirror, in your car - anywhere where you can see it often.
God is calling us every day to hope and trust in Him. Every day! Not just when He gets around to it. Let's be open to Him in our lives. As you know I am recovering from the flu. I have had much time to reflect, to "hear" what God is trying to tell me. And I have heard. I've heard God's message to me in paperback novels, in songs on the radio, and movies on TV. God doesn't speak exclusively through the Bible. The more I listen the louder God talks.
Expect God's voice. He won't let you down.
~ Maureen :)
God is Near 11/05/09
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
A+B=C
Peace exists "when Heaven and earth 'connect,'" so says today's Loyola Press retreat. How true! And lately Heaven and earth haven't exactly been connecting around the old homestead. I've been sick; my men have been sick - yuck! I'd ask for sympathy, but chances are, you or yours, have been sick too, and don't feel like extending sympathy. I understand.
Back to the peace - or lack of it. If you are a mom, you know that peace doesn't just miraculously appear for your family. You strive for peace. You engineer familial peace. And sometimes you drop the ball. You fumble. And at other times unavoidable circumstances derail.
I feel I've been fumbling a bit. THERE'S SO MUCH TO DO! ALWAYS! I want things, I need things. But so does everyone else in my house, and my friends and my parents. I seem to be needed somewhere 24/7. That sentiment does not evoke peace.
So what usually happens? Eventually, I get sick. And as you know, I got sick. Knocked me on my butt for a week and a half. I read three books - fun books. And slept and rested and unplugged. Felt more discouraged, but then gradually more peaceful. Peace. There's that word again.
The peace came when I began to set some new priorities, and guess what? They have to do with making Heaven and earth "connect." So when I experienced today's retreat I felt a tangible verification that my plan is the right plan. And that makes me happy.
I wish you all the determination to make Heaven and earth meet in all of your households. The season for peace is nearing. If we, as moms, don't have it, how can we give it?
Maureen :)
Peace of Mind and Heart 11/3/09
Back to the peace - or lack of it. If you are a mom, you know that peace doesn't just miraculously appear for your family. You strive for peace. You engineer familial peace. And sometimes you drop the ball. You fumble. And at other times unavoidable circumstances derail.
I feel I've been fumbling a bit. THERE'S SO MUCH TO DO! ALWAYS! I want things, I need things. But so does everyone else in my house, and my friends and my parents. I seem to be needed somewhere 24/7. That sentiment does not evoke peace.
So what usually happens? Eventually, I get sick. And as you know, I got sick. Knocked me on my butt for a week and a half. I read three books - fun books. And slept and rested and unplugged. Felt more discouraged, but then gradually more peaceful. Peace. There's that word again.
The peace came when I began to set some new priorities, and guess what? They have to do with making Heaven and earth "connect." So when I experienced today's retreat I felt a tangible verification that my plan is the right plan. And that makes me happy.
I wish you all the determination to make Heaven and earth meet in all of your households. The season for peace is nearing. If we, as moms, don't have it, how can we give it?
Maureen :)
Peace of Mind and Heart 11/3/09
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Do as I Say...and as I Did
God's will is what matters - not our own. As moms we always seem to try to bend our children's will to better conform to ours. Isn't that all that God our Father is asking of us? To bend to His will?
We know what's right for our children; God knows what's right for us. It's really pretty basic. Why do we make it so hard?
~ Maureen :)
Making Good Choices 10/20/09
We know what's right for our children; God knows what's right for us. It's really pretty basic. Why do we make it so hard?
~ Maureen :)
Making Good Choices 10/20/09
Thursday, October 15, 2009
The One-Two Punch of God
The Eucharist and the Holy Spirit are like a one-two punch. When you have such gifts in your corner you cannot fail. When I am at Mass surrounded by that family I am stronger than anywhere else I go throughout my day. I become strenghtened by the Holy Eucharist and sustained all through my daily journey by the Holy Spirit. I am never alone.
Tonight I went to an Anointing of the Sick healing Mass. As always they are wonderful. I am sadly surprised that more people do not take advantage of the great power that comes through this sacrament. Years ago I was finally told that anointing is not just for dire situations - that simply needing the strength, courage and fortitude to survive each day are plenty good enough reasons to receive this important and life-changing sacrament.
So, once again, tonight I received it. It's special. It's good - like God. I encourage any and all to receive this sacrament who need a little or big boost in life. You won't be disappointed. Miracles happen.
~ Maureen :)
Gifts of Grace 10/15/09
Tonight I went to an Anointing of the Sick healing Mass. As always they are wonderful. I am sadly surprised that more people do not take advantage of the great power that comes through this sacrament. Years ago I was finally told that anointing is not just for dire situations - that simply needing the strength, courage and fortitude to survive each day are plenty good enough reasons to receive this important and life-changing sacrament.
So, once again, tonight I received it. It's special. It's good - like God. I encourage any and all to receive this sacrament who need a little or big boost in life. You won't be disappointed. Miracles happen.
~ Maureen :)
Gifts of Grace 10/15/09
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
My Best Friend
Longing for God to fill the space within is something I have learned in the past five years. He now fills it and I am much more content than I ever was. Life isn't perfect, but life never is. I know now how I am supposed to be, what I am supposed to do, and who I am supposed to love.
Here is a poem that I wrote which I would like to share with you relating how I feel about God. I hope you enjoy it.
MY BEST FRIEND
You are my best Friend
You make me laugh at myself
I make You laugh at me
You send me turmoil and grief
So I’ll appreciate health and happiness
I ask You what You want me to do
You show me time after time
You’re not too subtle which is good
You make it clear to see Your will
When I need inspiration, You bestow it
When life is chaotic, You send peace
When I just don’t understand, You teach
You surround me with Your light
I entrust my heart to You
You love and cherish me
My whole heart is Yours
Everything I do
I do for You
~ Maureen :)
Longing for God 10/14/09
Here is a poem that I wrote which I would like to share with you relating how I feel about God. I hope you enjoy it.
MY BEST FRIEND
You are my best Friend
You make me laugh at myself
I make You laugh at me
You send me turmoil and grief
So I’ll appreciate health and happiness
I ask You what You want me to do
You show me time after time
You’re not too subtle which is good
You make it clear to see Your will
When I need inspiration, You bestow it
When life is chaotic, You send peace
When I just don’t understand, You teach
You surround me with Your light
I entrust my heart to You
You love and cherish me
My whole heart is Yours
Everything I do
I do for You
~ Maureen :)
Longing for God 10/14/09
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Teach Your Children Well
I like the title of this retreat - Leading in Jesus' Name. Who better to lead with? When God is in our corner marvelous things will happen.
Just tonight I had a short and sweet talk with my four men. In case you don't know, they are 19-24 years of age. Fall is here with winter on its heels. The air is already cooler. We have an abundance of clothes in this house - clothes that no one will ever wear. I thought of those clothes as "the harvest." And the laborers are indeed few, but they needn't be. Hopefully, I planted a seed tonight. My sons are too big for me to go through their clothes; they have to do it. I will keep bugging them until they do so. That's one of my small missions this week. Mom, the agitator - just one of many hats I wear!
We all must strive to be "the Body of Christ at work in the world." And for us moms our primary world is our home. Be the Body of Christ at home. Teach your children well.
~ Maureen :)
Leading in Jesus' Name 10/13/09
Just tonight I had a short and sweet talk with my four men. In case you don't know, they are 19-24 years of age. Fall is here with winter on its heels. The air is already cooler. We have an abundance of clothes in this house - clothes that no one will ever wear. I thought of those clothes as "the harvest." And the laborers are indeed few, but they needn't be. Hopefully, I planted a seed tonight. My sons are too big for me to go through their clothes; they have to do it. I will keep bugging them until they do so. That's one of my small missions this week. Mom, the agitator - just one of many hats I wear!
We all must strive to be "the Body of Christ at work in the world." And for us moms our primary world is our home. Be the Body of Christ at home. Teach your children well.
~ Maureen :)
Leading in Jesus' Name 10/13/09
Friday, September 25, 2009
Live in the Light
I truly am amazed at all the ways God finds to find me. I was composing a post in my head this morning for a future date when all of a sudden I found myself in the peace and quiet of my house which is usually filled with men. I could have attacked the kitchen…or I could have come up here to my happy place to write to you. Guess what I chose?
So here we are just the two of us. And God makes three. In today’s Loyola Press retreat we are encouraged to not only observe the beauty of God’s nature, but also the beauty in all God’s creatures – most especially the ones that perhaps make us want to pull our hair out on a daily basis! God is in everyone, so we are told. It’s a little hard to believe sometimes. But I do believe it.
The post I was composing was to be called, “Thank God for Women.” I probably have written something similar as I believe in that statement so strongly. Or I could have called it, “Thank God for the Internet.” I know I wrote a post like that over at Mom Writer’s Literary Magazine’s blog in the past year or so.
Well, in the past couple days both posts have collided and made me realize how very grateful I am for my friends across the planet that I may reach by simply typing these little buttons. And those who may reach me.
“How is God’s handiwork revealed to you through people with whom you share your faith?” today’s retreat asks us. To me that is the key – “people with whom you share your faith.” Sometimes I feel as if I am beating my head against the wall trying to break through thick skulls of young men ages 19-24, as well as one equally thick-headed husband.
Maybe my job isn’t to break through. Maybe my job is to break through to you – to women – to moms who are going through what I am going through. Last night if you could only have read the pathetic e-mails I wrote to two friends! I needed a sounding board. They couldn’t do a thing, but listen and offer words of encouragement. The morning brought a new day and two e-mails of “I’m with you, Maureen.”
I think all of us moms fight the same fight every day. And maybe guys fight their same fights every day too. I am a firm believer in a HUGE difference between the two sexes! And I’m not talking physical! Men and women are like night and day at times.
So instead of searching in the dark, I move to the light. I come up to my happy place and write to other moms who understand. I have been communicating via e-mail to one such mom in the past several days. I've never met her. We’ll call her Sally. “How is God’s handiwork revealed to you through people with whom you share your faith?” Sally found goodness in my site and my words and told me so. And that meant the world to me. Sally’s a big reason why I am writing instead of washing dishes right now! Thank you, Sally.
We women have to be there for one another – that’s all there is to it!
~ Maureen :)
Jesus, God and Me 9/25/09 – Three months till Christmas – Yikes!
So here we are just the two of us. And God makes three. In today’s Loyola Press retreat we are encouraged to not only observe the beauty of God’s nature, but also the beauty in all God’s creatures – most especially the ones that perhaps make us want to pull our hair out on a daily basis! God is in everyone, so we are told. It’s a little hard to believe sometimes. But I do believe it.
The post I was composing was to be called, “Thank God for Women.” I probably have written something similar as I believe in that statement so strongly. Or I could have called it, “Thank God for the Internet.” I know I wrote a post like that over at Mom Writer’s Literary Magazine’s blog in the past year or so.
Well, in the past couple days both posts have collided and made me realize how very grateful I am for my friends across the planet that I may reach by simply typing these little buttons. And those who may reach me.
“How is God’s handiwork revealed to you through people with whom you share your faith?” today’s retreat asks us. To me that is the key – “people with whom you share your faith.” Sometimes I feel as if I am beating my head against the wall trying to break through thick skulls of young men ages 19-24, as well as one equally thick-headed husband.
Maybe my job isn’t to break through. Maybe my job is to break through to you – to women – to moms who are going through what I am going through. Last night if you could only have read the pathetic e-mails I wrote to two friends! I needed a sounding board. They couldn’t do a thing, but listen and offer words of encouragement. The morning brought a new day and two e-mails of “I’m with you, Maureen.”
I think all of us moms fight the same fight every day. And maybe guys fight their same fights every day too. I am a firm believer in a HUGE difference between the two sexes! And I’m not talking physical! Men and women are like night and day at times.
So instead of searching in the dark, I move to the light. I come up to my happy place and write to other moms who understand. I have been communicating via e-mail to one such mom in the past several days. I've never met her. We’ll call her Sally. “How is God’s handiwork revealed to you through people with whom you share your faith?” Sally found goodness in my site and my words and told me so. And that meant the world to me. Sally’s a big reason why I am writing instead of washing dishes right now! Thank you, Sally.
We women have to be there for one another – that’s all there is to it!
~ Maureen :)
Jesus, God and Me 9/25/09 – Three months till Christmas – Yikes!
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Ahhhhh...peace and quiet
I don't know about you other women, but I know I have way too much noise in my mind. As today's retreat reminds us, we must listen to God - He comes in the whisper. I have always adored peace and quiet, so I am quite comfortable being alone. I venture to the beach as often as possible to be alone with my thoughts and with God. Since my boys are older I do have more moments of peace. That's a good thing. I think sometimes I wait for the huge moment, however - God in the thunder, God on the neon billboard pointing the right direction. But I'm learning and listening and growing toward God. May God bless you on your journey, and instill in you moments of peace this week.
~ Maureen :)
Listening to Our Father 9/15/09
~ Maureen :)
Listening to Our Father 9/15/09
Thursday, September 10, 2009
When We Listen
When we listen
When we listen
WHEN WE L-I-S-T-E-N
Enough said?
~ Maureen :)
God's Life for Us 9/10/09
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Here's to You, Everymom!
Wouldn't it be great to be commended for our work as moms - gold stars, blue ribbons, shiny trophies? Somehow these are rarely bestowed on us moms who try our best. But we keep trying. We carry out our faith, doing our best (and sometimes not so best) instilling goodness into our children. Why do we do this? Today's retreat suggests we do it because, "we are moved to works of love because God first loved us." Sometimes that's all we need to remember, that's what spurs us on to keep trying, to keep giving.
The last couple days' accomplishments have not been stellar; I would have preferred to hide in my room under my covers. But I didn't. I did what needed to be done. I didn't set the world on fire with anything I did, but at least I "did." I found that "the gift of faith and the grace of hope [did] sustain [me]. I truly did allow faith, hope and love to "direct [my] choices and actions."
Something I hope all you moms remember is that there are days when saying "no" to others and "yes" to ourselves is imperative for our sanity. I have flown pretty low under the radar these last few days, but at least I attempted flight. I'm content in my choices to take care of myself knowing that if I deplete my reserves nothing will be left for anyone else.
I wish you all the grace to just keep plugging away. Accept this trophy for a job well done, Everymom.
~ Maureen :)
Faith, Hope and Charity 9/9/9....cooool date!
Monday, September 7, 2009
Feel Like Stretch Momstrong?
This is one of those "tell it like it is" retreats. We all know we are supposed to put God first if we are Christian moms. In our hearts we know it to be the right thing to do. In our hearts. But what about our thoughts, our hands, our speech? That's where it may get tricky, and this "Put God first" philosophy may easily get forgotten, not intentionally, but forgotten none-the-less. We moms are so mindful about everyone else's wants and needs that we often forget what is most important. It's not the iPod for the 12-year-old. It's not the $150 tennis shoes your child MUST have. It's not many, many things.
The best gift you, as a parent, can foster in your child is their relationship with God. If I knew then what I know now... But hindsight is always 20/20, isn't it?
Moms are stretched to the limit these days. There should be a Stretch Momstrong doll. That's how many children treat their moms, grabbing on tight and never letting go - eeking out as much as the child possibly can before the mom realizes she can give no more. And it's usually "things" the mom is giving - tangible things. When a mom gives of her time and energy that is much more well-received than a stack of gifts under the Christmas tree.
I'm sure we all know families whose stacks may be small but the love in their family is large. This is a family with their collective head stuck on just right. This is the family who goes to church together, who volunteers at the soup kitchen, who thinks of the other. You can be this family. It just takes effort reaching toward something that you cannot see. Next time you or your children see a thing you want, ask yourself, "Why? Will this further my/my child's relationship with God?" It's a start. Then you are consciously thinking of God in your day-to-day plan. He is not being forgotten. He is thought about and talked about aloud. You are showing your children that God is important to you.
~ Maureen :)
9/07/09 The Way, Truth and Life
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Created to Be Happy ~ Then Why Aren't I?
Today's one of those days when I watched Loyola Press' retreat and had to laugh - I don't feel too happy, yet I'm told I was created to be happy. If "happy" perhaps is the wrong word, then I, at least, should be grateful for what God has given to me. I am grateful - I think. Most of the time.
We women, we moms, are sure made up of many different emotions. Life affects us so differently than it does men. Right this very moment I can't find a whole lot of beauty in my house. In fact, I'm pretty ticked at my men for what they have not done here which they should have done. And I am so tired of reminding, cajoling, yelling. It's just not worth it. Why does it have to be this way? If I'm created to be happy, why aren't I? Why do I seem to have to fight for happiness?
I feel like setting up a poll: Who's happy out there right now? I sincerely hope most of you are. Maybe some of it can rub off on me.
Not an upbeat post, I'm afraid. But sometimes life just isn't too upbeat.
~ Maureen :(
9/06/09 Created to Be Happy
We women, we moms, are sure made up of many different emotions. Life affects us so differently than it does men. Right this very moment I can't find a whole lot of beauty in my house. In fact, I'm pretty ticked at my men for what they have not done here which they should have done. And I am so tired of reminding, cajoling, yelling. It's just not worth it. Why does it have to be this way? If I'm created to be happy, why aren't I? Why do I seem to have to fight for happiness?
I feel like setting up a poll: Who's happy out there right now? I sincerely hope most of you are. Maybe some of it can rub off on me.
Not an upbeat post, I'm afraid. But sometimes life just isn't too upbeat.
~ Maureen :(
9/06/09 Created to Be Happy
Saturday, September 5, 2009
The Lord's Prayer: Our Gift from God
Today's retreat asks who we look toward for "wisdom and guidance in making...daily decisions?" What struck me about this as a mom is the fact that we are the ones our children constantly look toward for wisdom and guidance. Being a parent is such an awesome responsibilty - one that comes with no owner's manual. We muddle through; we give it our best shot. There are no do-overs in momdom as much as we may like them. No instant replays. What we do, what we decide, how we live our lives affects others. People, usually little people, watch us all the time. So we better be darn sure that we are giving them the best answers we can.
We must go to God to become fortified for whatever life throws at us. Use that Lord's Prayer; it's a gift from God. Pray the words first thing in the morning and throughout your day. Meditate on one phrase at a time. Figure out what it means to you right now in this particular time of your life. Explain to your children what the prayer means to you, and ask your children what it means to them. What do they hear when they pray the words? You may learn a thing or two! Kids have a mighty funny way of putting things into perspective.
~ Maureen :)
9/05/09 Jesus Teaches Me
We must go to God to become fortified for whatever life throws at us. Use that Lord's Prayer; it's a gift from God. Pray the words first thing in the morning and throughout your day. Meditate on one phrase at a time. Figure out what it means to you right now in this particular time of your life. Explain to your children what the prayer means to you, and ask your children what it means to them. What do they hear when they pray the words? You may learn a thing or two! Kids have a mighty funny way of putting things into perspective.
~ Maureen :)
9/05/09 Jesus Teaches Me
Sunday, August 30, 2009
What's Missing in Your Life?
For years I was searching and searching for something I thought I could not find, but it was right at my fingertips: God's love. I certainly understand the all-encompassing love mentioned in today's retreat which a mother feels for her children - five times over to be precise. For close to 25 years I truly thought that was the ultimate form of loving, the most pure love there was. My kids were my whole world. I revolved around them and they revolved around me. But something really big was missing. It took me quite a long journey to figure out that what was missing was a relationship with God.
Oh sure, I went to Sunday Mass and was a good person, but until I really starting asking the hard questions I just kind of "got by" in my faith. And getting by does not make for a very worthwhile life. Through much soul-searching I discovered exactly what I needed, what I was craving all along, but was too blind to see. And that was the "kind of love [which] begets wholeness." God's love.
God is always with me now. He is my center, my core. I am never alone.
I wish for all you moms out there, especially moms with little ones underfoot, that you make the time in every one of your days to get closer to God. Especially on those days when you think you can't give another second to another human being. I was right where you are now. You are worth, at the bare minimum, a few moments of quiet every day. Find it. Make it happen. No matter what. If it's only behind a closed bathroom door, then so be it. But do it. Take time each day to talk to God and see what happens.
~ Maureen :)
8/30/09 Jesus' Way of Love
Oh sure, I went to Sunday Mass and was a good person, but until I really starting asking the hard questions I just kind of "got by" in my faith. And getting by does not make for a very worthwhile life. Through much soul-searching I discovered exactly what I needed, what I was craving all along, but was too blind to see. And that was the "kind of love [which] begets wholeness." God's love.
God is always with me now. He is my center, my core. I am never alone.
I wish for all you moms out there, especially moms with little ones underfoot, that you make the time in every one of your days to get closer to God. Especially on those days when you think you can't give another second to another human being. I was right where you are now. You are worth, at the bare minimum, a few moments of quiet every day. Find it. Make it happen. No matter what. If it's only behind a closed bathroom door, then so be it. But do it. Take time each day to talk to God and see what happens.
~ Maureen :)
8/30/09 Jesus' Way of Love
Monday, August 17, 2009
My Father/Your Father
Today's retreat is near and dear to my heart: The Lord's Prayer. Years ago I was a rattler of this prayer as well as of the Hail Mary. But one day the words really hit me. I was praying to my Father who just so happened to live in heaven. Mine. He may be yours too, but He's mine.
Take the prayer line by line and say it heartfeltly. It's the very first thing I do and say every single day when I wake up. And it makes the difference in my days. Moms need so much help to get through their days. Let God help you.
The Lord's Prayer is the perfect prayer to pray when you have no clue what to pray for. There was a time when I had absolutely no idea what was best for me, what was best for others. During that time I prayed for God's will. And He showed me His will. I didn't always like it or agree with it, but because He knew I was doing what He wanted me to do He helped me on my journey. Let Him help you. Let your own personal Father in heaven help you. He is listening.
~ Maureen :)
8/17/09 Jesus Teaches Us
Take the prayer line by line and say it heartfeltly. It's the very first thing I do and say every single day when I wake up. And it makes the difference in my days. Moms need so much help to get through their days. Let God help you.
The Lord's Prayer is the perfect prayer to pray when you have no clue what to pray for. There was a time when I had absolutely no idea what was best for me, what was best for others. During that time I prayed for God's will. And He showed me His will. I didn't always like it or agree with it, but because He knew I was doing what He wanted me to do He helped me on my journey. Let Him help you. Let your own personal Father in heaven help you. He is listening.
~ Maureen :)
8/17/09 Jesus Teaches Us
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Share the Message
Have I ever told you how I know I'm doing something right? I get chills. This has been happening for a few years now, ever since I began my journey toward God. Today has been an afternoon of chills following quite a bad morning. I finally arrived home after getting nearly hopelessly lost from a place that's really not very far away at all. So stupid!
I come home, surf through the channels and light on a channel I don't usually watch. Chills! Message tailormade for me.
Much of my day was just plain wasted and I have much to do in the next few days preparing for a writer's conference. I think a mom's biggest problem is time - how on earth to fit in all that must be squeezed into our days? Well, I thought I'd better write another post here for you to read before you jump ship, so I settled in and clicked onto the retreat. Chills!
"We share the mission of the disciples to share the message of Jesus with others." Moms, you are my others - my most favorite others, to be sure! What a terrific affirmation that I am spending my time in a way that is pleasing to God. And as an added bonus this post practically wrote itself today.
Good luck this weekend, moms, with all you must accomplish as you be the Christ for your children.
~ Maureen :)
7/30/09 New Life in Jesus
I come home, surf through the channels and light on a channel I don't usually watch. Chills! Message tailormade for me.
Much of my day was just plain wasted and I have much to do in the next few days preparing for a writer's conference. I think a mom's biggest problem is time - how on earth to fit in all that must be squeezed into our days? Well, I thought I'd better write another post here for you to read before you jump ship, so I settled in and clicked onto the retreat. Chills!
"We share the mission of the disciples to share the message of Jesus with others." Moms, you are my others - my most favorite others, to be sure! What a terrific affirmation that I am spending my time in a way that is pleasing to God. And as an added bonus this post practically wrote itself today.
Good luck this weekend, moms, with all you must accomplish as you be the Christ for your children.
~ Maureen :)
7/30/09 New Life in Jesus
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Don't Let Our Weeds Catch Hold of Our Children
In today's retreat we remember that we were created by God, created in His image. "We are called to imitate." How do we imitate? Do we imitate? Because we surely know our children imitate us. So, again I ask, as our children imitate us, do we imitate our heavenly Parent?
As moms we are our children's first teachers. How many of us have ever accidentally let that bad word slip out of our mouths and the next thing we know, we've expanded our little one's vocabulary? Oh, aren't we proud! They hang onto that word and keep it at the forefront of their minds knowing it will shock when used.
But hopefully, our children also see and mimic the good we do. We speak kindly most of the time, we do what is right. We try to bring people closer to God. I think the greatest gift one can be given is a child. It is the most awesome responsibilty.
We can be the best example or the worst example; it is always our choice. Whatever we choose, chances are darn good we are planting the very same kinds of seeds in our youngsters' souls at a tender age. It's much harder to weed once the weeds take hold. Don't let our weeds catch hold of our children. Imitate God.
~ Maureen :)
July 12, 2009 God Creates Us
As moms we are our children's first teachers. How many of us have ever accidentally let that bad word slip out of our mouths and the next thing we know, we've expanded our little one's vocabulary? Oh, aren't we proud! They hang onto that word and keep it at the forefront of their minds knowing it will shock when used.
But hopefully, our children also see and mimic the good we do. We speak kindly most of the time, we do what is right. We try to bring people closer to God. I think the greatest gift one can be given is a child. It is the most awesome responsibilty.
We can be the best example or the worst example; it is always our choice. Whatever we choose, chances are darn good we are planting the very same kinds of seeds in our youngsters' souls at a tender age. It's much harder to weed once the weeds take hold. Don't let our weeds catch hold of our children. Imitate God.
~ Maureen :)
July 12, 2009 God Creates Us
Thursday, June 11, 2009
I Hope
How do we praise God? We don't praise Him when we yell at our kids, or when we show them a bad example. Our children mirror everything we do from the instant they are born. They take it all in and spit it right back out and us. Oh, how I wish I knew then what I know now!
My four boys truly are the best and worst of me. I could dissect each one to see where and how they received my desirable and undesirable traits. It's that plain to me. Of course, other influences affected them but my behavior was a huge factor. These days, although my sons are older, they still watch me, still mirror me. I can diffuse a situation or detonate it. So, I must be careful. I must be mindful of the power I hold within my hands, within my mood, within my choices.
"Lead me to care for your creation and for other people with a heart of joy." The very best way I can praise God is by instilling in my children's hearts the desire to praise God in their own ways. They are not going to attend daily Mass with me. They are not going to look forward to the homilies each week as I do.
But when they see someone in need they will give what they can, I hope.
When they see someone different than they, they will be accepting, I hope.
When they hear a rumor they will squelch it, I hope.
And when they think of me they will know I tried to do what God wanted with a heart of joy, I hope.
~ Maureen :)
6/11/09 God Creates the World
My four boys truly are the best and worst of me. I could dissect each one to see where and how they received my desirable and undesirable traits. It's that plain to me. Of course, other influences affected them but my behavior was a huge factor. These days, although my sons are older, they still watch me, still mirror me. I can diffuse a situation or detonate it. So, I must be careful. I must be mindful of the power I hold within my hands, within my mood, within my choices.
"Lead me to care for your creation and for other people with a heart of joy." The very best way I can praise God is by instilling in my children's hearts the desire to praise God in their own ways. They are not going to attend daily Mass with me. They are not going to look forward to the homilies each week as I do.
But when they see someone in need they will give what they can, I hope.
When they see someone different than they, they will be accepting, I hope.
When they hear a rumor they will squelch it, I hope.
And when they think of me they will know I tried to do what God wanted with a heart of joy, I hope.
~ Maureen :)
6/11/09 God Creates the World
Friday, May 15, 2009
Be Extraordinary!
Some of us can get lost in Bible words and forget to apply them to our daily lives. Seeds, harvest, the blind, the crippled, loaves, fishes: catch words for our Bible reading. And who these days ever uses the word "fishes"? It's "fish." I caught fish, not fishes. But those particular miracle stories are ingrained in our brains, so "fishes" it is.
Yes, God intends for us to read the Bible but more than that He intends us to apply its teaching to our daily round. Today, for example, I was planting flowers and vegetables. I love the solitude. But then I thought, Why not invite my youngest out to sit with me? As it turns out he didn't come out, but he knew he was welcome.
Later I took a break from planting. Same son was watching a "House" episode he'd recorded. There he was...in my path. I could have rested for a short while and run back out and missed seeing him, or I could have stayed. I stayed. It's a simple thing. But we spent an hour together. That's an hour more than nothing. He's 18 and doesn't exactly sit home much. Unless he's sleeping!
So it may sound like a small thing but life is made up of countless small things one person chooses to do or not do for another. Small matters. Jesus was a very simple man going about His daily round doing the ordinary. Many times the ordinary turned extraordinary in His case, but isn't that true of us too? Any one of our ordinary acts has the possibility of becoming extraordinary. Remember that. You never know!
~ Maureen :)
5/15/09 Jesus Gathers Disciples
Yes, God intends for us to read the Bible but more than that He intends us to apply its teaching to our daily round. Today, for example, I was planting flowers and vegetables. I love the solitude. But then I thought, Why not invite my youngest out to sit with me? As it turns out he didn't come out, but he knew he was welcome.
Later I took a break from planting. Same son was watching a "House" episode he'd recorded. There he was...in my path. I could have rested for a short while and run back out and missed seeing him, or I could have stayed. I stayed. It's a simple thing. But we spent an hour together. That's an hour more than nothing. He's 18 and doesn't exactly sit home much. Unless he's sleeping!
So it may sound like a small thing but life is made up of countless small things one person chooses to do or not do for another. Small matters. Jesus was a very simple man going about His daily round doing the ordinary. Many times the ordinary turned extraordinary in His case, but isn't that true of us too? Any one of our ordinary acts has the possibility of becoming extraordinary. Remember that. You never know!
~ Maureen :)
5/15/09 Jesus Gathers Disciples
Monday, April 20, 2009
Honoring Our Temples
Can't quite relate to Mr. Fit Smiley Tan Man running in shades! Not this mom. That's just great he has the time to run along the beautiful mountain trail enjoying the picture-perfect weather. Wouldn't we all?
Where are his kids? At home driving mom bonkers? Or is this happy man single? Many questions. I know - it's just a picture. The retreat is about the words, God's words. But still I wonder how very hard it is for a mom with one kid or more to feel her body is a temple of the Holy Spirit after the child is born. I know we should, but I wonder if most of us do. It is definitely "temple-like" when we are pregnant though, don't you think?
I know a woman who works out at the local gym after her children are asleep at around 10:00 to 11:00 every night. This is "her" time. I never had "her" time. I never took it. I should have.
Maybe today we both can find some time to do something smart for our bodies realizing they are gifts from God. Something as simple as throwing away whatever's left in the Easter baskets, maybe?
~ Maureen :)
4/21/09 Making Christian Choices
Where are his kids? At home driving mom bonkers? Or is this happy man single? Many questions. I know - it's just a picture. The retreat is about the words, God's words. But still I wonder how very hard it is for a mom with one kid or more to feel her body is a temple of the Holy Spirit after the child is born. I know we should, but I wonder if most of us do. It is definitely "temple-like" when we are pregnant though, don't you think?
I know a woman who works out at the local gym after her children are asleep at around 10:00 to 11:00 every night. This is "her" time. I never had "her" time. I never took it. I should have.
Maybe today we both can find some time to do something smart for our bodies realizing they are gifts from God. Something as simple as throwing away whatever's left in the Easter baskets, maybe?
~ Maureen :)
4/21/09 Making Christian Choices
Monday, April 13, 2009
Keystone Moms
Moms, don't you feel like the keystone of your family? I do. Sometimes I don't want the responsibility, but it's mine none-the-less. The keystone - without which the house falls apart. An awesome responsibilty. Only in the past weeks am I beginning to realize the monumental influence I have and have had on my family. And I wish I'd done some things differently.
My own mom, who will be 90 years old next month, has always said that if a person does the best she can do at any given moment, then that is all she can do. She cannot second-guess her choices. Hindsight is 20/20. But when we moms are there with our children day in and day out we do what we need to do. I'm a great one to wonder, "What if?" I know it's stupid, counter-productive, but I still find myself doing it.
Maybe I'm finally old enough to stop. To truly take each day and just live it. I hope so. I do know the source of my strength; I'm not second-guessing Him. And I know where to find my living stones. I find them at daily Mass. They surround me. Mass is my "temple of living stones." It's taken me a long time to fully understand the importance of attending daily Mass.
Something was definitely missing in my life before I stepped foot into daily Mass. Once there, the void was filled. I felt it; I knew I belonged but still I second-guessed my choice. I could be doing things at home. Like what? Dishes??? Laundry??? Believe me, the dishes and laundry are still right here when I come home.
Daily Mass is something I do for me. All me. And it is the best habit I have ever formed. I encourage you to take the plunge to attend Mass more than one day a week if you are in the position to do so. It took me until my children were quite old before I began the practice. It centers me. I can't imagine my life without it. Many days I still go a little bonkers, but without daily Mass I'd go a lot bonkers! Life's just a matter of degrees.
~ Maureen :)
4/13/09 New Life in Jesus
My own mom, who will be 90 years old next month, has always said that if a person does the best she can do at any given moment, then that is all she can do. She cannot second-guess her choices. Hindsight is 20/20. But when we moms are there with our children day in and day out we do what we need to do. I'm a great one to wonder, "What if?" I know it's stupid, counter-productive, but I still find myself doing it.
Maybe I'm finally old enough to stop. To truly take each day and just live it. I hope so. I do know the source of my strength; I'm not second-guessing Him. And I know where to find my living stones. I find them at daily Mass. They surround me. Mass is my "temple of living stones." It's taken me a long time to fully understand the importance of attending daily Mass.
Something was definitely missing in my life before I stepped foot into daily Mass. Once there, the void was filled. I felt it; I knew I belonged but still I second-guessed my choice. I could be doing things at home. Like what? Dishes??? Laundry??? Believe me, the dishes and laundry are still right here when I come home.
Daily Mass is something I do for me. All me. And it is the best habit I have ever formed. I encourage you to take the plunge to attend Mass more than one day a week if you are in the position to do so. It took me until my children were quite old before I began the practice. It centers me. I can't imagine my life without it. Many days I still go a little bonkers, but without daily Mass I'd go a lot bonkers! Life's just a matter of degrees.
~ Maureen :)
4/13/09 New Life in Jesus
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Lift the Keys, Ladies!
Forgive and forget. Hmmm...tough words. We Christians readily accept the fact that Jesus forgave us. So why is it difficult for us to forgive others? To forgive ourselves? We have had the absolute best example of selfless love yet we turn away, we rationalize. Why do we do this?
I think we are plain stupid, that's why. OK, I'm making generalizations now; I shouldn't speak for you. How about this? I am plain stupid! I've been asking, seeking, knocking but sometimes I think God just isn't home. Yet, in my heart, I know He never leaves me.
This April I'm turning over one of my many proverbial leaves. I have begun to "approach Jesus in faith," as this Loyola retreat encourages. I know what's confining me. What really is confining you? If you feel you are in a prison, who put up the bars? Did you? Are you your own jail keeper?
Get out. Break out. Be like Otis on The Andy Griffith Show way back when. Remember him? He was characterized as Mayberry's town drunk, slurring his speech and weaving his walk. He always knew he had a place to stay the night when he couldn't possibly go home to his wife in such a condition of inebriation. We always have a place with God - no matter what.
Can't you just picture him locking himself into his jail cell, then dutifully replacing the jail keys dangling from the large silver ring on the hook next to the cell? Come morning, Otis would simply reach for the keys and let himself out. He was a pretty smart guy! He stumbled but knew where to go.
Reach for the keys, moms. Release yourselves from the self-imposed prison. Aren't you ready for something new, "a surprise"? I sure am. This is a new day - a new month. Yesterday is over. The night of your emotional inebriation is past.
Spend time with God today. Walk toward Him right out of your jail.
~ Maureen :)
4/01/09 Jesus' Forgiveness
I think we are plain stupid, that's why. OK, I'm making generalizations now; I shouldn't speak for you. How about this? I am plain stupid! I've been asking, seeking, knocking but sometimes I think God just isn't home. Yet, in my heart, I know He never leaves me.
This April I'm turning over one of my many proverbial leaves. I have begun to "approach Jesus in faith," as this Loyola retreat encourages. I know what's confining me. What really is confining you? If you feel you are in a prison, who put up the bars? Did you? Are you your own jail keeper?
Get out. Break out. Be like Otis on The Andy Griffith Show way back when. Remember him? He was characterized as Mayberry's town drunk, slurring his speech and weaving his walk. He always knew he had a place to stay the night when he couldn't possibly go home to his wife in such a condition of inebriation. We always have a place with God - no matter what.
Can't you just picture him locking himself into his jail cell, then dutifully replacing the jail keys dangling from the large silver ring on the hook next to the cell? Come morning, Otis would simply reach for the keys and let himself out. He was a pretty smart guy! He stumbled but knew where to go.
Reach for the keys, moms. Release yourselves from the self-imposed prison. Aren't you ready for something new, "a surprise"? I sure am. This is a new day - a new month. Yesterday is over. The night of your emotional inebriation is past.
Spend time with God today. Walk toward Him right out of your jail.
~ Maureen :)
4/01/09 Jesus' Forgiveness
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Let's Use Our X-ray Vision, Shall We?
"See the likeness of God in each person I meet." Not just the ones we are happy to meet. Each person we meet. Hmmm...I don't know about you but, for me, this is perhaps one of God's most difficult requests. There are quite a lot of people who drive me absolutely nuts! The ones nearest and dearest to me are the ones who know how to push every button I have. They are the ones I've been staring at now for quite a good many years day in and day out. And I don't even see the God in them anymore most times.
That is not to say God is not there - I just don't take the time to delve far enough below the surface to excavate Him. Life is way too busy. My patience is way too thin. Both excuses, of course.
Today I began to try harder to see the God in those closest to me. It was pretty darn easy when my little toe-headed boys were much younger. So cute. So sweet. God bubbled from them. But now my children are 18-23. The ripples of God are definitely in each of them but He's wearing camo sometimes. And as for their dad, well, He sports a Ghillie Suit!
So I try. Today I try. Tomorrow I will try. I will think "mercy." I will think "compassion." And if I'm thinking them, maybe, just maybe, I'll say them, too.
~ Maureen
3/31/09 Respecting Others
That is not to say God is not there - I just don't take the time to delve far enough below the surface to excavate Him. Life is way too busy. My patience is way too thin. Both excuses, of course.
Today I began to try harder to see the God in those closest to me. It was pretty darn easy when my little toe-headed boys were much younger. So cute. So sweet. God bubbled from them. But now my children are 18-23. The ripples of God are definitely in each of them but He's wearing camo sometimes. And as for their dad, well, He sports a Ghillie Suit!
So I try. Today I try. Tomorrow I will try. I will think "mercy." I will think "compassion." And if I'm thinking them, maybe, just maybe, I'll say them, too.
~ Maureen
3/31/09 Respecting Others
Saturday, March 14, 2009
God and Moms ~ 24/7
As a mom one of my biggest wishes is that my children always trust me. I laid the groundwork from the first moments of their lives and continue to this day. Feeding them, changing diapers, listening wholeheartedly to a concern, teaching them to drive: it's all the same thing. We parents are saying we care and we are there for our children no matter what.
We must realize God feels the same way about us no matter what we do. God knows our thoughts before we do. Kind of like when our youngsters walk in looking guilty as sin; we know exactly what they've done (or pretty close), but have to wait until they come clean. When they do confess they feel better and we forgive. It's an endless circle - sin, confess, forgive. And it all means love.
Hopefully as we get older we are a bit more experienced and have to go to God less and less to confess as we attempt to get this thing called, "Life," right. Know that God is always there for you to help and guide you.
I hope you are walking closer to God during this Lenten time of reflection. Sometimes it's hard but always, it's worth it. Good luck on your journey.
~ Maureen :)
3/14 Community of Jesus
We must realize God feels the same way about us no matter what we do. God knows our thoughts before we do. Kind of like when our youngsters walk in looking guilty as sin; we know exactly what they've done (or pretty close), but have to wait until they come clean. When they do confess they feel better and we forgive. It's an endless circle - sin, confess, forgive. And it all means love.
Hopefully as we get older we are a bit more experienced and have to go to God less and less to confess as we attempt to get this thing called, "Life," right. Know that God is always there for you to help and guide you.
I hope you are walking closer to God during this Lenten time of reflection. Sometimes it's hard but always, it's worth it. Good luck on your journey.
~ Maureen :)
3/14 Community of Jesus
Friday, February 27, 2009
Hey Dad, Whatcha Doing?
It's a Mom! A mom silhouetted against the sky playing with her child. We relate to this Loyola Press retreat immediately, right, fellow moms? As we read on we re-discover what we already know: "Total dependence, acceptance, and trust in a loving relationship with the Father." This is what we strive for in regard to our own children, so it's not that big of a stretch to realize that God wants us moms to depend on Him knowing he accepts us as we are - warts and all. God wants us to trust Him, to believe that He knows what is right for us at every given moment of our lives.
How many times have your children made mistakes that never would have happened had they only listened to you? From burnt fingers reaching to the stove all the way through experimenting with drinking. They test our patience. They test our love. Just we test our Father's patience and love.
Mom is such a broad term. Where are you on your journey? Little ones underfoot? Teenagers driving you nuts? Approaching Empty Nest? Are you a grandma? It doesn't matter where you are on you continuum; you need God, just as your children will always need you.
Go to God. Share your joy as well as your sorrow. Ask for His help and be brave enough to take his advice. Be the kind of child to God that you wish your children would be to you - a little twist on the old Golden Rule!
Have a great weekend getting closer to God.
~ Maureen :)
2/26 God Directs Our Lives
How many times have your children made mistakes that never would have happened had they only listened to you? From burnt fingers reaching to the stove all the way through experimenting with drinking. They test our patience. They test our love. Just we test our Father's patience and love.
Mom is such a broad term. Where are you on your journey? Little ones underfoot? Teenagers driving you nuts? Approaching Empty Nest? Are you a grandma? It doesn't matter where you are on you continuum; you need God, just as your children will always need you.
Go to God. Share your joy as well as your sorrow. Ask for His help and be brave enough to take his advice. Be the kind of child to God that you wish your children would be to you - a little twist on the old Golden Rule!
Have a great weekend getting closer to God.
~ Maureen :)
2/26 God Directs Our Lives
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Make Space ~ Take Time
Here we are again - Ash Wednesday. How many Ash Wednesdays have you experienced? How have you grown closer to God in the process? As moms we try to instill our Christian values into our children. Hopefully today we will find special time to spend with our children discussing their plans for this Lent and sharing with them our plans. It's important that your children know you are on a journey with God. Tell them. And as the days unfold, show them.
Last night I attended a Mardi Gras celebration at our church. Our pastor suggested we place our little half sheet of paper with our Lenten goals right on our refrigerators for all to see to help hold us accountable. I'm not sure if I'm going to be that open. But maybe you are ready to be.
In today's retreat we are encouraged to enter this season with our "head up and eyes forward." I think this is a stretch for moms. Our heads are usually down and though we keep our eyes forward, many of us only forward to the next chore. So maybe we could work on this together.
More wise words from my pastor, my friend: "Make space. Take time." Do it! Do it for you. If it's only five minutes a day, go somewhere where you have established is your private space in which you will be talking to God. I sound adamant on this point because although I have listened to these particularly wise words for over a year now I still have not carved out my own space.
Just a few minutes ago here I was writing to you, when in walks husband oblivious to my concentrating face and moving fingers, "Will you make me some eggs?"
"Only if I can throw them at you when they're done!" Words merely thought, not voiced. And this is Ash Wednesday when hopes are fresh and fervent! Oh well. So make that space. Carve out the time. Do whatever you must do to stay sane and get closer to God.
I love the title, "O God of second chances." And thirds and fourths and fifths...
Keep us moms always in the palms of your big, strong hands, God.
~ Maureen :)
2/25 Ash Wednesday
Last night I attended a Mardi Gras celebration at our church. Our pastor suggested we place our little half sheet of paper with our Lenten goals right on our refrigerators for all to see to help hold us accountable. I'm not sure if I'm going to be that open. But maybe you are ready to be.
In today's retreat we are encouraged to enter this season with our "head up and eyes forward." I think this is a stretch for moms. Our heads are usually down and though we keep our eyes forward, many of us only forward to the next chore. So maybe we could work on this together.
More wise words from my pastor, my friend: "Make space. Take time." Do it! Do it for you. If it's only five minutes a day, go somewhere where you have established is your private space in which you will be talking to God. I sound adamant on this point because although I have listened to these particularly wise words for over a year now I still have not carved out my own space.
Just a few minutes ago here I was writing to you, when in walks husband oblivious to my concentrating face and moving fingers, "Will you make me some eggs?"
"Only if I can throw them at you when they're done!" Words merely thought, not voiced. And this is Ash Wednesday when hopes are fresh and fervent! Oh well. So make that space. Carve out the time. Do whatever you must do to stay sane and get closer to God.
I love the title, "O God of second chances." And thirds and fourths and fifths...
Keep us moms always in the palms of your big, strong hands, God.
~ Maureen :)
2/25 Ash Wednesday
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Be the Pebble in the Pond
As moms we bundle our children and cart them to church each Sunday. We say we are going to church. But do we ever tell our children that we are the Church? Do we tell them a church isn't merely the building? We need to do that.
In today's retreat we are asked, "Who will see God's light and love in you today?" As moms, our greatest audience is composed of our children - varying ages but all our children. The circle extends to our children's friends and their families as we get to know them better. School activities, especially sports in our house, broadened my family's circle of friends. I think of that pebble thrown into the pond with the ripples reaching ever outward - further than we ever would have imagined.
You are the pebble whether you want to be or not. It's a given if you have children. Realize this fact and embrace it. Be good. Do good. Be that good example your child needs. Teach in all you do. Before you get out of bed each morning ask God to give you the grace to be the best parent you can be.
~ Maureen :)
2/24 The Mission of the Church
In today's retreat we are asked, "Who will see God's light and love in you today?" As moms, our greatest audience is composed of our children - varying ages but all our children. The circle extends to our children's friends and their families as we get to know them better. School activities, especially sports in our house, broadened my family's circle of friends. I think of that pebble thrown into the pond with the ripples reaching ever outward - further than we ever would have imagined.
You are the pebble whether you want to be or not. It's a given if you have children. Realize this fact and embrace it. Be good. Do good. Be that good example your child needs. Teach in all you do. Before you get out of bed each morning ask God to give you the grace to be the best parent you can be.
~ Maureen :)
2/24 The Mission of the Church
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
We Are Never Alone
I was struck by today's Loyola 3-Minute Retreat the instant I saw the young man silhouetted in the dark hallway. I can relate to that young man today. I feel like him a good deal of the time in this house of men. As my sons grow older and are now their own people, so to speak, I feel less and less sure of my role. The mom role has pretty well ended, but what has taken its place is the child of God role.
I am more acutely aware of my journey now that I have the time to breathe and think and write. I go to God all the time with all my worries. When I feel alone in the darkness I go to Him and He lights my way. More concretely, I go to God every day at daily Mass. He centers me, hears my pleas and if I'm smart enough to see, He answers many of my questions.
Much that occurs in this life just doesn't add up to us mere mortals. We need God's heavenly guidance. He is the One who allows us to "journey confidently." I wish you well today us you journey closer to God. Let Him help you. Talk to Him. Take the time. Feel His presence in the dark hallways of your life.
~ Maureen :)
2/18 Faith in Jesus
I am more acutely aware of my journey now that I have the time to breathe and think and write. I go to God all the time with all my worries. When I feel alone in the darkness I go to Him and He lights my way. More concretely, I go to God every day at daily Mass. He centers me, hears my pleas and if I'm smart enough to see, He answers many of my questions.
Much that occurs in this life just doesn't add up to us mere mortals. We need God's heavenly guidance. He is the One who allows us to "journey confidently." I wish you well today us you journey closer to God. Let Him help you. Talk to Him. Take the time. Feel His presence in the dark hallways of your life.
~ Maureen :)
2/18 Faith in Jesus
Saturday, February 14, 2009
The Greatest of These...
Today's the day for love. Cupid's big day. Moms are great at giving their love. Let your light shine today to give and give and give. Spread the love God put into your heart, and it will come back to you. Happy Valentine's Day, ladies!
~ Maureen :)
2/14 Faith, Hope and Charity
~ Maureen :)
2/14 Faith, Hope and Charity
Friday, February 13, 2009
Show and Tell
Today’s retreat mentions that the Holy Spirit changes lives forever. I do believe we moms can relate. There we were…walking down the aisle…blinked our eyes and suddenly we’re up to our elbows in all things baby! Lives forever changed. Go to the Spirit today and ask Him to guide your every word, your every action, even your very thoughts. Speak well to those little ones, and not-so-little ones, placed into your care. It may not always feel as if you are witnessing God’s Word as you change diapers, re-arrange your schedule so you can attend the classroom Valentine’s Day party or endure the discomfort of bleachers during all those basketball games, but you are. With every good deed you are showing, not merely telling, your children how very much you them.
~ Maureen :)
2/13 Growing in the Spirit
~ Maureen :)
2/13 Growing in the Spirit
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Giving Not Receiving
I see two types of givers: one group who will give but only if they are sure they have plenty for themselves, and another bunch who when asked to give simply say yes. They don't ask questions. They don't worry about "what ifs." They give freely. They are most always cheery, pleasant givers. People think well of them. And they themselves have a brighter outlook on life than givers who hesitate.
Just remember who gives you what you have. Without God you'd have nothing. Teach your children to give generously. Truly teach them to give. But remember that giving continuously to your children is not teaching them to give. You are teaching them to receive. Make opportunities for your children to actually give to another – a younger sibling, an elderly neighbor, their teacher. Encourage them to give by "giving" them lots of practice.
~ Maureen :)
2/10 God Cares for Us
Just remember who gives you what you have. Without God you'd have nothing. Teach your children to give generously. Truly teach them to give. But remember that giving continuously to your children is not teaching them to give. You are teaching them to receive. Make opportunities for your children to actually give to another – a younger sibling, an elderly neighbor, their teacher. Encourage them to give by "giving" them lots of practice.
~ Maureen :)
2/10 God Cares for Us
Sunday, February 8, 2009
We're Worth It
Why do you forgive your kids? Because you love them. Why does our Father forgive us? Because He loves us. Pretty simple stuff here, ladies. Here's one that may throw you for a loop: Why are we moms unable to forgive ourselves?
There is no perfect mom, you know (except maybe the Blessed Mother), so let's try to be a little easier on ourselves this week. Make the time to go to God each morning. Just do it. If your child needed you you'd find the time; if a neighbor needed you you'd be there. Be there for yourself this week.
I could be the poster mom for not taking my own advice in past years. Give. Give. Give. Oh, I gave alright. Gave myself right away until I was pretty well spent. But God can work marvels with nothing ~ first no world, then big beautiful world, remember?
Happily, God planted a new purpose in my heart once my little kiddies became big men. He cleared away the brambles of my soul lighting His way for my life. And I finally took the time to listen after 20 years of marriage and children followed by five more of nearly disappearing completely. That's way too long to not place God first in your life. Now don't get me wrong...I was a good person all those years doing what I thought best, key word being "I." Now I listen to God and He tells me what to do.
If you're sitting there right now thinking, "Oh yeah, sure, right, she doesn't live my life. How could she know?," trust me on this one; I do know. If you are a mom I know your basic framework because all moms have the same basic framework - all good ones anyway.
If you are floundering right now with not even two seconds to call your own, stop and take stock of what's happening to you. It is not good. Go to God first every day before you get out of bed if only for one minute at first. Take that moment of peace to feel God's reconciliation. He's always ready for you, ladies. Standing invitation.
Have a great week!
~ Maureen :)
2/8 Celebrating Reconciliation
There is no perfect mom, you know (except maybe the Blessed Mother), so let's try to be a little easier on ourselves this week. Make the time to go to God each morning. Just do it. If your child needed you you'd find the time; if a neighbor needed you you'd be there. Be there for yourself this week.
I could be the poster mom for not taking my own advice in past years. Give. Give. Give. Oh, I gave alright. Gave myself right away until I was pretty well spent. But God can work marvels with nothing ~ first no world, then big beautiful world, remember?
Happily, God planted a new purpose in my heart once my little kiddies became big men. He cleared away the brambles of my soul lighting His way for my life. And I finally took the time to listen after 20 years of marriage and children followed by five more of nearly disappearing completely. That's way too long to not place God first in your life. Now don't get me wrong...I was a good person all those years doing what I thought best, key word being "I." Now I listen to God and He tells me what to do.
If you're sitting there right now thinking, "Oh yeah, sure, right, she doesn't live my life. How could she know?," trust me on this one; I do know. If you are a mom I know your basic framework because all moms have the same basic framework - all good ones anyway.
If you are floundering right now with not even two seconds to call your own, stop and take stock of what's happening to you. It is not good. Go to God first every day before you get out of bed if only for one minute at first. Take that moment of peace to feel God's reconciliation. He's always ready for you, ladies. Standing invitation.
Have a great week!
~ Maureen :)
2/8 Celebrating Reconciliation
Friday, February 6, 2009
Trust is Taught
Do you show your children your humble and trusting heart by allowing them to see you pray? Or do you only pray in solitude? Do you take your children to Mass each Sunday or sleep in? Is God the priority in your life He should be? Do your children trust you? Do they know they could come to you no matter what? Then chances are they'll go to God, too, when the need arises and you should be very proud you've instilled in them their feelings of trust.
~ Maureen :)
2/7 Trust in God
~ Maureen :)
2/7 Trust in God
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Ease Up On the Mom Reins
If there's one thing I've learned in the past few years it is that I cannot survive without God in my life. We moms were not and are not ever meant to do this thing called motherhood on our own. I foolishly tried for over 20 years. I've joked about being the supreme commander of my four horsemen, but it was exhausting and not at all the way I'd do it if given the chance again.
We are meant to work with God, not go it alone. This Loyola retreat stated, "Joining God's family is a deceptively simple yet remarkably complex choice." I had to laugh when I read that because months ago I wrote something so similar it was almost verbatim. Joining God's family should be easy but it's not. And we are the ones who make it complex.
Pray to the Holy Spirit to simplify your life. Take steps to implement Spirit's suggestions. Recognize the God in those around you. You may be looking an answer right in the face, yet not see it. Learn to ease up on those mom reins a little bit. Ask for help when you need it and keep asking until you get the help you so deperately seek.
~ Maureen :)
1/29 Joining God's Family
We are meant to work with God, not go it alone. This Loyola retreat stated, "Joining God's family is a deceptively simple yet remarkably complex choice." I had to laugh when I read that because months ago I wrote something so similar it was almost verbatim. Joining God's family should be easy but it's not. And we are the ones who make it complex.
Pray to the Holy Spirit to simplify your life. Take steps to implement Spirit's suggestions. Recognize the God in those around you. You may be looking an answer right in the face, yet not see it. Learn to ease up on those mom reins a little bit. Ask for help when you need it and keep asking until you get the help you so deperately seek.
~ Maureen :)
1/29 Joining God's Family
Saturday, January 31, 2009
He's ready ~ Are You?
What mom doesn’t love to bestow gifts onto her children? I do. It’s one of my favorite things. This Christmas eBay and I struck up quite a friendship. I had a blast buying what I thought were just the perfect gifts for my sons. Not always an easy task as my boys are in their late teens and early 20s, so great thought is required. Even with the great thought some gifts missed their mark this season. One Notre Dame hat didn’t quite fit, sizes or colors a bit off. I was a little disappointed because I chose each so carefully and since it was eBay - no returns. Still a very happy Christmas all-in-all with much appreciation shown.
I wonder though, how God feels when He bestows on us what He KNOWS is best for us and we don’t think it’s quite right. He knows it; He doesn’t just think it. It is in His plan for us and we don’t use what He gives us as He wishes we would. Why not? Too time-consuming? We don’t feel we are ready? Objections to God’s will abound more often than not in most moms’ lives. We are so busy! We listen to everyone. Sometimes it’s just too darn hard to hear God through all the other white noise of our lives.
That’s why we need to make a place where we go to God regularly to listen to Him. Just as each one of our children savor precious one-on-one time with us, our Father wants us to make the time, to carve it out, to be with Him. Today, do it no matter what. A few minutes. Get the ball rolling. He’s always there. Show Him you’re available. Pencil Him in.
~ Maureen :)
1/28 Christian Living
I wonder though, how God feels when He bestows on us what He KNOWS is best for us and we don’t think it’s quite right. He knows it; He doesn’t just think it. It is in His plan for us and we don’t use what He gives us as He wishes we would. Why not? Too time-consuming? We don’t feel we are ready? Objections to God’s will abound more often than not in most moms’ lives. We are so busy! We listen to everyone. Sometimes it’s just too darn hard to hear God through all the other white noise of our lives.
That’s why we need to make a place where we go to God regularly to listen to Him. Just as each one of our children savor precious one-on-one time with us, our Father wants us to make the time, to carve it out, to be with Him. Today, do it no matter what. A few minutes. Get the ball rolling. He’s always there. Show Him you’re available. Pencil Him in.
~ Maureen :)
1/28 Christian Living
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Welcome Home Spirit
Body image and moms. Hmmm… not body image and runway models, but body image of our bodies: bodies that bore one or more little bodies. A tall order - or more precisely perhaps, a wide order. A wider, more robust order than the day we all walked down the aisle, most likely. Sad but true. Sad but Real. A mom’s body isn’t just for show. A mom’s body gives life, feeds life, nurtures life, is life. All of us should be proud of our bodies knowing that we are God’s creations.
However, I must admit that I do not wake up each morning praising my own body, grateful to inhibit my own skin. But I should. I know I should. And I know I should take better care of it by walking more, eating healthier foods. This retreat forces me to think about what I am doing to my body.
How do you care for your body? If your body is the very temple of the Holy Spirit shouldn’t the Spirit feel welcome in a well-cared for place? I’m not talking beautiful here. I’m talking welcoming, gracious, hospitable. How does the Spirit feel as He enters into your being? Does Spirit feel like it’s a place to call home? What can you do right this very second to be more welcoming to God the Holy Spirit in your life? You must first be right with yourself before you can convince others that God is Someone worth following.
~ Maureen :)
1/27 – Growing in Holiness
However, I must admit that I do not wake up each morning praising my own body, grateful to inhibit my own skin. But I should. I know I should. And I know I should take better care of it by walking more, eating healthier foods. This retreat forces me to think about what I am doing to my body.
How do you care for your body? If your body is the very temple of the Holy Spirit shouldn’t the Spirit feel welcome in a well-cared for place? I’m not talking beautiful here. I’m talking welcoming, gracious, hospitable. How does the Spirit feel as He enters into your being? Does Spirit feel like it’s a place to call home? What can you do right this very second to be more welcoming to God the Holy Spirit in your life? You must first be right with yourself before you can convince others that God is Someone worth following.
~ Maureen :)
1/27 – Growing in Holiness
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
The Spirit's Fruit Salad
Nearly a year ago I seriously took a long, hard look at how the fruits of the Holy Spirit manifested themselves in my life. I encourage you moms to do the same. How do you exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control? This is about you, not your children, you. Give yourself the time to think. Take it. Nowadays moms are on such a crazy rollercoaster. How can you think and plan zooming around life on a rollercoaster? You can't. You simply react to things that occur. That is not fulfilling God's plan for your life. That's not living. Reacting is not living. Steal the time somehow and begin your journey to see what God wants of you.
I began my journey a year ago and I can happily say that I know what God wants of me now. A year ago I had no clue. I hated many parts of the past year - hated them with a pasion. But God was always there with me. No matter how low I went there was God right with me holding me. I felt Him. He raised me up. He showed me my way. Let Him show you yours.
~ Maureen :)
1/26 Loyola Retreat - God Calls Us to Obey
I began my journey a year ago and I can happily say that I know what God wants of me now. A year ago I had no clue. I hated many parts of the past year - hated them with a pasion. But God was always there with me. No matter how low I went there was God right with me holding me. I felt Him. He raised me up. He showed me my way. Let Him show you yours.
~ Maureen :)
1/26 Loyola Retreat - God Calls Us to Obey
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
STOP, moms!
Remember, "Here is the church...here is the steeple...open the door...see all the people," to the giggles of your young child? How many times have we folded our hands inside-out to illustrate God's church to His young ones?
In this mini-retreat I was first struck by the the complementary shades of skin forming our Father's church. Skin - same function, same softness, slight variation in shade.
Next, what mom doesn't feel depleted most, if not all, of her days? STOP! Just stop, moms. Stop giving long enough to receive, to receive from God, to be replenished. You'll have so much more to give than you'd ever dreamed!
~ Maureen :)
1/24 Getting to Know Jesus
In this mini-retreat I was first struck by the the complementary shades of skin forming our Father's church. Skin - same function, same softness, slight variation in shade.
Next, what mom doesn't feel depleted most, if not all, of her days? STOP! Just stop, moms. Stop giving long enough to receive, to receive from God, to be replenished. You'll have so much more to give than you'd ever dreamed!
~ Maureen :)
1/24 Getting to Know Jesus
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Faith-filled Moms
As I looked at the photo in this retreat I wanted to be on that mountain. How very peaceful. As a mom I have always longed for peace, quiet, solitude. Haven't attained them very often but still strive to experience moments. Four sons make noise any way you look at it. But plenty of the sounds are joyous.
Don't we moms live our lives on this premise: Do not be afraid; just have faith?
"Is she still breathing?" you worry as you stare at your newborn just home from the hospital. She hasn't moved in a while in her bassinet.
"Do you think we'd better put up the baby gates now? Kate's moving around pretty fast. Soon she'll reach the stairs."
"Tomorrow's Mikey's first day of preschool. How will he get along with the other kids?"
"Why aren't they home from the movies yet? I just heard sirens."
"Today Bonnie graduates from college. Will she find a job?"
Different stages; same worry. Mom worry. There's no other like it. But through it all we have faith. And somehow we survive...and so do they! Don't forget for an instant Who gives us our faith - Who keeps us going day after day, year after year. Thank you, God!
~ Maureen :)
Meeting Jesus 1/23/09
Don't we moms live our lives on this premise: Do not be afraid; just have faith?
"Is she still breathing?" you worry as you stare at your newborn just home from the hospital. She hasn't moved in a while in her bassinet.
"Do you think we'd better put up the baby gates now? Kate's moving around pretty fast. Soon she'll reach the stairs."
"Tomorrow's Mikey's first day of preschool. How will he get along with the other kids?"
"Why aren't they home from the movies yet? I just heard sirens."
"Today Bonnie graduates from college. Will she find a job?"
Different stages; same worry. Mom worry. There's no other like it. But through it all we have faith. And somehow we survive...and so do they! Don't forget for an instant Who gives us our faith - Who keeps us going day after day, year after year. Thank you, God!
~ Maureen :)
Meeting Jesus 1/23/09
Thursday, January 22, 2009
The Best Years of Your Life
If you are a mom you are already a fisher of men – little men and little women – but "fish" nonetheless. A church sign near my parents' house proclaims, "You catch 'em. God will clean 'em."
Every good and noble act your children witness sinks into their being. They will remember. So keep doing them!
I had to laugh as I was experiencing today's retreat: What have we moms left behind? Oh my, let me see...
1. any fraction of time for oneself
2. including solitary bathroom time – why do bathrooms even have doors?
3. peace
4. quiet
5. higher brain cells used to decipher topics above cartoons
6. make-up
7. fashionable clothes
8. the you you used to be B.C. (Before Children)
You moms know the list is endless. I would grow roots to my chair before I exhausted it. But you moms also know there is no greater love, no greater joy – so today do your very best to actually enjoy it. As my mom warned me very often years ago, "These are the best years of your life."
~ Maureen :)
1/22 Loyola Press Retreat - Following Jesus (Check out the archives!)
Every good and noble act your children witness sinks into their being. They will remember. So keep doing them!
I had to laugh as I was experiencing today's retreat: What have we moms left behind? Oh my, let me see...
1. any fraction of time for oneself
2. including solitary bathroom time – why do bathrooms even have doors?
3. peace
4. quiet
5. higher brain cells used to decipher topics above cartoons
6. make-up
7. fashionable clothes
8. the you you used to be B.C. (Before Children)
You moms know the list is endless. I would grow roots to my chair before I exhausted it. But you moms also know there is no greater love, no greater joy – so today do your very best to actually enjoy it. As my mom warned me very often years ago, "These are the best years of your life."
~ Maureen :)
1/22 Loyola Press Retreat - Following Jesus (Check out the archives!)
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Peacemakers
Isn't peacemaker a synonym for mom? It is in my house. Four sons aged 18-23! Can you imagine the fights I've settled in the past 24 years? It boggles the mind. Surely, one day has not gone by when I haven't been forced into the peacemaker role because we moms love peace. Peace and quiet. They go together like peanut butter and jelly.
Oftentimes I've chosen peace over justice not taking the time to find out who was "right." I didn't care. I just wanted peace. And that was wrong. Wrong but human. So the next time you must play peacemaker here's a little trick I heard but never had the guts to try: Sit the offenders down opposite each other and cover both their heads with a kitchen towel. It's so ludicrous the squabblers can do nothing but laugh! Tell me if it works, will you?
~ Maureen :)
1/21 Loyola Press Retreat - Living a Moral Life
Oftentimes I've chosen peace over justice not taking the time to find out who was "right." I didn't care. I just wanted peace. And that was wrong. Wrong but human. So the next time you must play peacemaker here's a little trick I heard but never had the guts to try: Sit the offenders down opposite each other and cover both their heads with a kitchen towel. It's so ludicrous the squabblers can do nothing but laugh! Tell me if it works, will you?
~ Maureen :)
1/21 Loyola Press Retreat - Living a Moral Life
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